If shame tells us to hide, acting opposite can lower shame when we aren’t at risk for rejection.

*Remember to trust you gut - if your wisdom is telling you it’s not safe to be your authentic self in a context, following shame’s natural urges may be more effective for self-protection & -preservation.

  • Sharing opinions or ideas that feel vulnerable

    Showing your genuine emotions

    Opening up about small personal things that feel appropriate to the context

    Using a clear & confident voice, and no over-apologizing

    Making eye contact & holding your head up high

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