Rumination is the mind stuck in a negative loop.
It keeps us from being effective.
If we’re stuck in our heads, we can’t focus on self-advocacy or repairing after a microaggression.
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ANGER RUMINATION - Stewing about someone’s poor character after they made a microaggression.
SHAME RUMINATION - Berating yourself about a comment you made or an embarrassing action.
ANXIETY RUMINATION - Worrying about worst-case scenarios if you confronted someone.
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“If I worry enough, I can plan for the worse case scenario.”
“If I stop judging myself, I’ll let myself off easy for doing something offensive.”
“If I ruminate on all of my personal failings, the pain of being criticized will hurt less.”
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Your mind is tricked into believing rumination is helping you plan, be moral, & protect yourself from failure. It’s not.