skillfully confront

S I F S - R

With neutral language - the who, what, where, when.
“I heard a question to the designer, asking if she’s the new diversity hire.”
***Only if you believe they may not have intended harm. For overt statements, skip this step.
“I’m not sure what you intended…”
Use “I” language, no accusations or attacks.
“I felt shocked to hear this & I think others were offended.”
Provide them with suggestions to change behavior in the future.
“Next time, you could consider how a brown person might feel discredited by this comment.”
Reinforce them with your words
Put yourself in their shoes & consider why it might be important to them to change their future actions.
“I know how much you care about your co-workers.”