Be as specific as possible. Don’t assume the other person knows what you’re talking about.

“An hour ago in the staff meeting I called you by another Asian-American employee’s name and then laughed it off.”

Remember to use “I” language. Don’t get caught up in explaining yourself - just briefly share your intentions.

“I laughed because I felt very anxious and shameful when I realized that I could have offended you and others.”

Keep it simple, direct & clear.

“I’m really sorry for my behavior.”

Describe your plans for being more mindful.

If you aren’t sure, you could talk it through with a trusted co-worker first. We’re all learning!

“Next time, if I ever make that mistake again, I’d like to muster the courage on the spot to call myself out for making a microaggression.”