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Script for Skillfully Confronting Microaggressions

Script for Addressing Microaggression

STATE AS ACCURATELY AS POSSIBLE WHAT YOU HEARD THE PERSON SAY (EXAMPLE: Hey John, earlier today during the finance meeting, you asked us to clean our offices so "it doesn't look like the ghetto here").

SEPARATE INTENTION FROM ACTION IF POSSIBLE (EXAMPLE: "I imagine you didn't mean to offend your staff and maybe didn't realize the power of your words."

STATE HOW IT CAME ACROSS OR MADE YOU FEEL (EXAMPLE: As a black man who grew up in the inner city, I felt uneasy about your comment.")

MAKE A REQUEST OR SUGGESTION (EXAMPLES: "I'd appreciate you not using the word 'ghetto' in the future. Some other words you could use would be a 'mess' or a 'pigsty.'"

REINFORCE THE PERSON WITH YOUR WORDS (EXAMPLE: Thanks. I know how much you care about your staff. I appreciate your sensitivity.")

A few tips to keep in mind:

Reinforcing someone who made a microaggression DOES NOT mean liking or approving of it.
We reinforce others to increase positive behavior change.
Humans are social animals - like gorillas - give someone a banana if you want to see the trick again!
Acting non-attacking & curious is effective NOT passive.
When we act approach someone with curiosity, they are more open to listening & shifting their perspectives.
Be mindful of your goal(s) in confronting a microaggression. Are you wanting to retaliate or foster inclusivity?
Bearing in mind these two questions will help you anchor your actions to goals.

Script for Skillfully Confronting Microaggressions

A few tips to keep in mind:

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